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Fri Feb 18 08:11:16 2005
F61 in Canton, georgia =usa=
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of , Years ago.
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--Not that it's a regret, but I would like to have better had time to:
spend more time with individual
--But some things worked out so well... I'm SO GLAD I was able to:
know her and know she was dying
--One seemingly minor thing (yet important) which impressed me was when:
touching the dead body
--And exactly backwards: what we didn't make a big deal of, was:
what would happen to the person's things
--I can get all teary-eyed just thinking about it all again when:
I remember things I enjoyed doing with the person
--It's sometimes so very difficult. I just wish I could
die
--Regarding MEDICINE, DOCTORS, etc:
excellance
--Regarding CHURCHES, RELIGION, etc:
knowing our loved one was in a better place
--Religious Affiliation:
Church of jesus christ of latter day saints
--Regarding the FUNERAL:
people who knew the person considered them a friend and never
acknowledged to the family condolences
--The weirdest part of it all to me was:
How quickly one can die
--SOME OF THE COMMON SIGNS OF DEATH :
nothing to suggest
--RE: Visions from the 'Other Side':
I felt their presence for days and months after they were gone
--How might you deal with yet unresolved issues from a death?:
I feel guilty for not visiting my mother more often when I knew
she was terminal
--If we were to visit one last conversation...
I guess I would just say that I was sorry that I wasn't strong
enough to deal with the situation and ask forgiveness
--RE: After-death visits from our loved ones:
I often feel my mother's pressence with me very strongly especially
when I am depressed
--Regarding Rights & Wishes of the Dying:
dressing of the body, the music at the service and nobody be sad
but be happy
--What might you like your obit to say of you:
She was first and foremost a good grandmother, then a mother.She
loved animals and always was there to help homeless animals. She
also helped anybody who was down on their luck
--Any Coping Ritual or Event you invented / devised to help you cope:
write all I could recall about the person in my diary
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How'd I do? Well
What Helped me most deal with death? Knew it was coming
keep busy iwth somehing you like to do
What Hindered me most in my dealing with death? Ability to Forget
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Wed Feb 16 13:13:04 2005
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of GrandMother, Years ago.
Cause of Death: alcoholism; Aged: .
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--Death Is:
an end no normal daily existence
--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I
cried, and stood in disbelief
--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
my mother, crying and angry
--What I think my (USA) culture needs to better learn about death is:
that there is a possibility that there is no afterlife,
reincarnation...maybe things jsut cease.
--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
my father-in-law reminding me that noone ever gets out alive
--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
being alone
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
being around others
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
talk to them, and listen... words upon death are profound in meaning
--[My Uncle's] death taught me so much. I'd have others know how I:
learned more of him in his last year than i ever knew
--Not that it's a regret, but I would like to have better had time to:
spend more time with all of them
--But some things worked out so well... I'm SO GLAD I was able to:
know about my uncles coming death
--I can get all teary-eyed just thinking about it all again when:
i realize that most of my family has died, and im still in my
20's....at least one death a year since i was 8...thats enought to
make anyone cry...especially when you were very close to most of them
--Regarding CHURCHES, RELIGION, etc:
nothing at all... it still doesn't and as far as I can remember,
never did. I never agreed with creationism, or the fundamental
beliefs of specific religion
--Religious Affiliation:
none. I have a general appreciation of trying to better myself,
for my own, and my family's sake. But no religion has swayed me
into their beleifs.
--RE: After-death visits from our loved ones:
my daughter, born well after my uncvles d3eath, has the same
mannerisms, and attitude as he had. Its as if a part of him was
reborn with her
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What Helped me most deal with death? Avoiding Everything
What Hindered me most in my dealing with death? Disbelief it could happen
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Fri Feb 11 13:35:07 2005
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Telepathic contacts between living people hints at the possibilities
after death. We just don't know what this implies. (Sure, you
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of Father, 20 Years ago.
Cause of Death: throat cancer, metastized; emphysema, cirrhosis; Aged: 63.
--Details:
He was a chronic alcoholic and plasterer (lots of exposure to
asbestos), as well as smoker. When he required a tracheostomy, he
became the leader of a support group to help other surgery recipients
adapt. His face became completely disfigured, yet he continued to
socialize and help as he could. I was very proud of him.
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--Death Is:
a casting off of the physical body, and a change in energy.
It seems as if the person no longer exists, but that is only from
the perspective of those humans left in their physical bodies.
It is part of the human destiny to experience loss of those persons
closest in proximity and perhaps, in meaning. It is important to
the human community to respond to the sense of loss in other humans'
lives on this Earth.
--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I
was innundated with the religious implication of her particular
death.
--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
total chaos.
--What I think my (USA) culture needs to better learn about death is:
it is a continuation of living.
--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
I was there with my father, and know that I was--for him (within
his experience)--a true, loving daughter.
--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
thinking about it over time, from societal as well as personal
perspectives and effects.
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
to have lost the sense of having a family around me.
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
state those times that still reverberate with meaning for you--that
involved the dying person and yourself.
--[My GirlFriend's] death taught me so much. I'd have others know how I:
persisted in knowing how she was doing and communicating with her,
even when I was hundreds of miles away. And then I let all her
professional friends at an out-of-the-way location know, so that
they could honor her life with them.
--The most confusing point of death for me was when:
Jayne died, and no one told me even though I had been by her bedside
for weeks.
--Regarding Humor in the death process, I'd just say that:
No, I didn't laugh at death but I wish I could have. I laughed
with my stepmother about little projects in the family that had
gone awry, though, to make her smile.
--Not that it's a regret, but I would like to have better had time to:
enjoy some events with my stepmother again, after I moved back to
support her in her last months. She just seemed in too much pain.
Also, my sister was physically closer and instead of finding
a minister in my stepmother's faith my sister "converted" my
stepmother--which was wrong-headed.
--But some things worked out so well... I'm SO GLAD I was able to:
attend her in the hospital. If I hadn't sold everything and returned
to the Midwest, I couldn't have done that.
--One seemingly minor thing (yet important) which impressed me was when:
the new priest said a prefunctory service at the funeral home.
I think my stepmother deserved more than that.
--I can get all teary-eyed just thinking about it all again when:
Easter comes around, with the sweet animals. She loved animals,
my father did too. You knew that to Dottie, animals are people.
--Sometimes I think: It's just not fair...
that her stepchildren are her only family; she lost her brothers
just as we lost our common growing-up time with each other."
--It's sometimes so very difficult. I just wish I could
melt into the next dimension.
--When it really hit me... when I realized & acknowledged the death, I
was so much poorer, and felt stranded.
--Regarding MEDICINE, DOCTORS, etc:
reserved judgment.
--Regarding CHURCHES, RELIGION, etc:
treating my mother as a martyr and my father as a sinner. Three out
of 10 children entered religious life, but none stayed.
--Regarding ONENESS of SPIRIT, etc:
true.
--Regarding MONEY:
it was a secret.
--Regarding the FUNERAL:
how greatly we relied on the funeral professionals and we grateful
to them.
--The weirdest part of it all to me was:
trying to be in two families at the same time.
--SOME OF THE COMMON STAGES OF GRIEF:
death is as real as any other event in life, and to be expected at
any time.
--RE: Visions from the 'Other Side':
I only hope that it happened.
--RE: Near Death Experiences:
I had the choice to die or to have one more opportunity to love
a man. I really wanted to die, but felt a responsibility to return.
That was 8 years ago, but I still haven't been coupled!
--If we were to visit one last conversation...
No, we talked deeply when my dear ones were alive. I know it is
just me reflecting on life.
--RE: After-death visits from our loved ones:
My mother was on-call to me when I was desperate from age 5 to about
age 14. She had to move on after that, whatever the process is.
--Regarding Rights & Wishes of the Dying:
Even though I'm living in Ohio, I'm a Californian. Please do
something to support the causes I believed in.
--Any thoughts about your own death?:
I'd like to die right now, but I have two young cats that I can't
seem to get situated elsewhere.
--What might you like your obit to say of you:
I TRIED.
--Any Coping Ritual or Event you invented / devised to help you cope:
In high school I discovered playing music.
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How'd I do? Adequate
Promise that my family would get back together if possible.
What Hindered me most in my dealing with death? Family's Sensitivities
Other children were dispersed to father's side; I was with mother's.
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Cause of Death: prostate cancer; Aged: 86.
--Details:
The cancer was found late in its progress and diagnosed as
untreatable.
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--Death Is:
when your physical body ceases to function, either by accident,
illness, or simply old age. Our consciousness no longer has
the physical form to express itself. The where-abouts of this
consciousness is a topic of big debate among humans, but most agree
that it continues on in another form or place.
--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I
wasn't really sure about how to react to it. Because my first
experience was not with the death of someone really close to me,
but with the death of a person close to someone that I was close
with, I felt sadness for that person.
--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
It is never an easy thing, and everyone has their own way of dealing
with it. There is no allotted amount of time for grieving.
--What I think my (USA) culture needs to better learn about death is:
That it is unavoidable. We may be able to postpone it for a while,
but even accidents are unpredictable. You never know when or where
it may happen.
--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
it made my family more aware of the importance of medical care.
Everyone in my family went in for their physicals that year.
--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
Surrounding myself with as many people as I could till I couldn't
take it anymore - then being totally alone for a while to think.
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
Being alone for too long - thinking about it for too long.
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
Nobody likes to be alone for too long, especially with they are
scared or hurt. Just being there may be all it takes to put a dying
person at ease and give them a few moments of peace before they go.
--[My GrandFather's] death taught me so much. I'd have others know how I:
Always thought that death was a natural part of life but never
thought much about how it would effect me and how I would cope with
it. The worst part of death is feeling that you didn't tell them
how much you loved them, or visit them enough - take care of that
now because once they are gone (and you never know when) you can't.
--The most confusing point of death for me was when:
I began to be afraid that other people would die too - maybe
even myself.
--Regarding Humor in the death process, I'd just say that:
in the confusion, I needed an emotional release and all that I could
do was laugh - I didn't have any more tears left. I was also so
greatful to still be alive myself but not wanting to seem selfish
by expressing it too much.
--Not that it's a regret, but I would like to have better had time to:
Visit him one last time before he died.
--But some things worked out so well... I'm SO GLAD I was able to:
I never really thought about the things that went well...
--One seemingly minor thing (yet important) which impressed me was when:
People came together for the funeral that hadn't come around
in years.
--And exactly backwards: what we didn't make a big deal of, was:
Phone calls to say "sorry about your loss". I mean what do you say
to someone who says that other than thankyou? Not to sound rude,
but a card would be better because you really don't want to go over
the same converstaion a million times. Just knowing that someone
is thinking about you is more than enough. Call later.....much
later when the confusion is over.
--I can get all teary-eyed just thinking about it all again when:
I think that my children will never have met their great-grandfather.
--In another dimension of Life where this all had never happened...
My children would have a broader view of life - a life that no one
else could recount or impart wisdom from like he could.
--Sometimes I think: It's just not fair...
He was a good man; why did he have to go so soon?
--It's sometimes so very difficult. I just wish I could
Speak to him one last time.
--When it really hit me... when I realized & acknowledged the death, I
Don't know how to feel - am I angry, sad, scared, alone....
--Regarding MEDICINE, DOCTORS, etc:
mixed feelings - some things are never to be known. All the what
ifs that can ruin your life - what if he went to the doctor earlier,
could they have saved him? Well, it will never be known and only
hurts to think about.
--Regarding HOSPICE etc:
My previous experience with hospice has been excellent.
--Regarding CHURCHES, RELIGION, etc:
First, comfort in the idea that my grandfather was in a better place.
But then the church brought up the "was he saved?" question. Was he?
Is he in heaven or hell. The church says being a good person is
not enough......in a way, they made the process of grieving longer
and harder.
--Religious Affiliation:
presently, I don't claim affiliation with any particular church.
I was raised catholic, converted to baptist, and finally decided
that they all have their good points and their really twisted ideas.
--Regarding ONENESS of SPIRIT, etc:
incomprehensible. There is always a sense of loss, even if
it could be proven that the spirit is alive in a better place.
Those left behing feel their spirits link in grief, but never in
full understanding.
--Regarding MONEY:
There are so many expenses to think about if you haven't prepared.
Fortunately, my grandfather had his affairs in order for many years.
My grandmother didn't have to deal with the bills unexpectedly.
Money to inherit wasn't an issue here.
--Regarding the FUNERAL:
Everyone grieves in their own way - everyone reacts differently -
everyone was sad and very uncomfortable.
--The weirdest part of it all to me was:
I gained a new view of the church that I was with. It made me
bitter to think that a christian couldn't wait to tell me that my
grandfather might be in hell now. I hadn't even really been hit by
his death yet and that was then all that I could think about for
a while. It took a close friend to show me that their opinion,
christian or not, was just that - their opinion and an unknown
for all.
--SOME OF THE COMMON SIGNS OF DEATH :
?????
--SOME OF THE COMMON STAGES OF GRIEF:
It is not a thing that you can rush or slow down. You can't predict
how long you will grieve for or how long each stage will last.
It is something that you just have to work through. Each person
will find their own way to move throught the stages of grief,
and all you can do is endure it.
--How might you deal with yet unresolved issues from a death?:
I didn't see him as much as I would have liked to, but he knew about
our finances, and I know that he understood - nevertheless - I wish
I could have seen him at least one last time. No one can help me
there, but his memeory still lives in my father and my grandmother,
and talking can bring it back to life.
--If we were to visit one last conversation...
I would tell my grandfather that I love him, wished that I could
have known him better - that my children could have known him.
I would give him a big - huge - healing hug.
--RE: After-death visits from our loved ones:
I have dreamed of my grandfather since his death. He wasn't active
in the dream - just there, as if to let me know that he is still with
me, watching me and my family. I didn't feel an overwhelming "he's
protecting me", but rather a sense of peace for him, and for me.
--Regarding Rights & Wishes of the Dying:
I would want to see research be accomplished should I be
incapacitated. I would want my organs to be donated - If I am going
to die anyway, why not give someone else the opportunity to live?
--Any thoughts about your own death?:
If I knew that I was going to die, I would try to make it as easy
on my family as possible, but at the same time I know that I would
need to rely on them for support and stregnth - because I know that
I would be terrified. I would be sad to know that I was dying,
but a bit comforted by the thought that I can say my goodbyes to
those I love. I would rather live a long life, but if I should
have to die early, I would want to know so that I could do the
afore-mentioned things............
--Any Coping Ritual or Event you invented / devised to help you cope:
Singing - when I was alone, I would sing - anything that came
to mind.
--Any Coping Rituals or Events which have carried over into your life?
I am religious about going to the doctor and nagging my family to
do the same.
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What Helped me most deal with death? Helping Other People cope
It will never be the same because of the relationships involved
with the person who is lost.
What Hindered me most in my dealing with death? Fear of Death
--As for reaching out helping others now as part of my healing process:
The most help would have come from my father - but he was in his
own grieving and was not able to do what I needed. At the time,
I felt it more important for him to be allowed his grieving -
not to push what I needed in exchange for what he needed.
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I know that death will never be an easy thing to go through.
Sometimes we need to stop and remember that we are mortal; we will
all die eventually, and we will all experience death of loved ones.
That cannot be changed.
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What Helped me most deal with death? Helping Other People cope
It will never be the same because of the relationships involved
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Cause of Death: car accident; Aged: 19.
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--Death Is:
the ending of life, everything you know now stops
--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I
was shocked
--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
all the good times i had with that person
--What I think my (U.S.A.) culture needs to better learn about death is:
that it happens to eveyone and that they are not coming back so
just focus on the good memories you have with that person
--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
now there is a college fund in his name
--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
all of my friends and i didn't want to make it worse for eveybody
else
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
not getting aanymore good memories with that person
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
that they would have a good tome before they died
--[My Friend's] death taught me so much. I'd have others know how I:
appreitate others
--The most confusing point of death for me was when:
i heard about it
--Regarding Humor in the death process, I'd just say that:
it is great having a memories about that person that is so good
--Not that it's a regret, but I would like to have better had time to:
hang out with him more
--But some things worked out so well... I'm SO GLAD I was able to:
pariticepate in a sport with him
--When it really hit me... when I realized & acknowledged the death, I
was shocked, i couldn't belive it
--Regarding MEDICINE, DOCTORS, etc:
urgency, they did everything that they could
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How'd I do? Well
What Helped me most deal with death? Memories to hold
What Hindered me most in my dealing with death? Other:
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The Outsiders, Buffy Fanfic
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S.E Hinton, Various people on the internet.
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of GrandMother, 3 Years ago.
Cause of Death: heart attack; Aged: 71.
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--Death Is:
something natural, it will happen to everyone eventually. It's
unpredictable and can be incredibly traumatizing. Anybody in their
right mind hates it. Most fear it but you really shouldn't. No use
in fighting the inevitable.
--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I
was 11 and i was traumatied. Since then my life has been horrible. My
mother and father are always fighting, I no longer have anyone to
talk to. At the same time her dog died, my most beloved animal ever.
--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
When I heard the news, I totally zoned out for like 2 years after. I
stopped taking care of myself, I was neglected by my family. The
most horrible thing was my best friend saying why did you miss so
much school it was ONLY your grandma.
--What I think my () culture needs to better learn about death is:
They perceive death as going to heaven or hell. To me that is a
whole bunch of bs. You just die, your just there, you can't think
you can't do anything. So it's not bad because you won't even be
able to think of how bad it is.
--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
My uncle finally moved on, got his own house and now actually has
a girlfriend.
--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
Reading books, just sitting outside pondering on life and how this
effected me so much. Most of the time I was daydreaming on some
fake life. The life I wish i had.
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
The fact that i was neglected ever since. It seemed my grandma was
the only one who truly loved me.
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
I have no idea.
--[My GrandMother's] death taught me so much. I'd have others know how I:
almost killed myself because no one wanted me.
--The most confusing point of death for me was when:
Why no one wanted me anymore. Why i was unloved and rejected.
--Regarding Humor in the death process, I'd just say that:
I couldn't believe it I was going insane.
--Not that it's a regret, but I would like to have better had time to:
Talk to all the relatives that came down to the funeral.
--But some things worked out so well... I'm SO GLAD I was able to:
There is nothing from this death that has made me thankfull.
--One seemingly minor thing (yet important) which impressed me was when:
dunno
--And exactly backwards: what we didn't make a big deal of, was:
dunno
--I can get all teary-eyed just thinking about it all again when:
I see a picture or something that belonged to them. Even when i go
back to the town where they lived.
--In another dimension of Life where this all had never happened...
It would be awesome, I would have somewhere to go when all is
bad. Somewhere to go cool off.
--Sometimes I think: It's just not fair...
that they have to die. I'm all alone now, no one wants me.
--It's sometimes so very difficult. I just wish I could
die.
--When it really hit me... when I realized & acknowledged the death, I
This is just a dream, that I would wake up and go stupid dream. It
didn't actually sink in until 2 years later.
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How'd I do? Very Difficult
What Helped me most deal with death? Zoning Out
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of Uncle, 2 Weeks ago.
Cause of Death: not sure yet; Aged: 40.
--Details:
we think he might have had a heart attack
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--Death Is:
something that ends our living. our spirit goes on and our bodies
do not
--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I
cried
--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
evryone came together and cried
--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
i hold my children much closer and tighter to me, i do not take
life for granted.
--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
i guess my family and my husband
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
missing him so much and knowing i won't see him
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
keep them relaxed and comfortable
--[My Uncle's] death taught me so much. I'd have others know how I:
life is too short
--The most confusing point of death for me was when:
how he was feeling and how he feels now
--Regarding Humor in the death process, I'd just say that:
april and i have alot of memories
--But some things worked out so well... I'm SO GLAD I was able to:
tell him i loved him and that he is a good guy
--In another dimension of Life where this all had never happened...
i am not sure it would
--Sometimes I think: It's just not fair...
if only i had some more time with him
--It's sometimes so very difficult. I just wish I could
hug him tight
--When it really hit me... when I realized & acknowledged the death, I
i wanted to crawl in a hole
--Regarding CHURCHES, RELIGION, etc:
hearing the word of god
--Religious Affiliation:
catholic
--Regarding ONENESS of SPIRIT, etc:
true
--Regarding MONEY:
the funeral home wanted too much and could care less about us
--Regarding the FUNERAL:
the "professionals" were jerks
--The weirdest part of it all to me was:
losing someone so dear
--How might you deal with yet unresolved issues from a death?:
i forgave him
--If we were to visit one last conversation...
to know he knew how much i cared
--RE: After-death visits from our loved ones:
i knew he was going to pass because i dreamt it two months prior,
how ever the day he had passed we felt him around the house
--Regarding Rights & Wishes of the Dying:
let me be comfortable and let me tell evryone bye and i love them
--Any thoughts about your own death?:
yes and i am alittle scared about the thought
--What might you like your obit to say of you:
A mother who loved her children and loved her husband and was kind
to whomever she could be kind to
--Any Coping Ritual or Event you invented / devised to help you cope:
not coping yet
--Any Coping Rituals or Events which have carried over into your life?
i see him everywhere
--Any New Friends emerge in the shared grieving process of Death?
new job
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How'd I do? Adequate
What Helped me most deal with death? My Belief System
What Hindered me most in my dealing with death? Dissociation
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Recommended Reading-- Titles:
The Tibetan Book of the Dead
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of , Years ago.
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How'd I do? Well
What Helped me most deal with death? Lack of Awareness
was a child and did not have a good relationship with her
What Hindered me most in my dealing with death? Illicit Drugs
have not had to deal with death since my recovery began from drugs
2 years ago
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