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Sun Sep 24 20:19:54 2006
F17 in Houston, Texas =United States=
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of GrandMother, 2 Years ago.
Cause of Death: cancer; Aged: .
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--Death Is:
a celebration of life and what that person passed on to you
--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I
tried to shove the feelings out of by using drugs
--That first time, how it happened was
she died in my arms
--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
my parents and their attitude towards me
--What I think my (United States) culture needs to better learn about death is:
its not suppost to be sad and it shouldnt be cerimonial but like
a party
--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
learning to live laught and love and always be true to myself not
worrying about what others are going to think of me
--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
my friends mother Gretchen
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
how everyone else was taking it
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
dont say anything let that person know that you are there for them,
if they need you they will com to you but its the worst when someone
tries to forse things on you
--[My GrandMother's] death taught me so much. I'd have others know how I:
changed my everyday life
--The most confusing point of death for me was when:
it really dawned on me that she was gone and there was nothing I
could do to bring her back
--Not that it's a regret, but I would like to have better had time to:
take trips and do the things she always wanted to do
--But some things worked out so well... I'm SO GLAD I was able to:
be with her for that last day
--One seemingly minor thing (yet important) which impressed me was when:
I did the things and knew she would want me to do, like dress nice
for her funeral which by the way I NEVER dress up
--In another dimension of Life where this all had never happened...
I would probably still be doing drugs and probably doing harder
drugs than I did, and I might have never cahnged my life style into
something beautiful and amazing
--Sometimes I think: It's just not fair...
why would god take the most beautiful thing away
--It's sometimes so very difficult. I just wish I could
go to sleep and wake up in paradise with her
--When it really hit me... when I realized & acknowledged the death, I
cryed and felt really anger and abandoned
--Regarding MEDICINE, DOCTORS, etc:
if she had gone to a better doctor that cost more money they could
have possibly told her she had cancer when she started feeling it
instead of a year before she passed one,maybe she could ahve gotten
chemo sooner and heeled
--Regarding HOSPICE etc:
they were great and I am glad she got to spend time at home, she
hated being in the hospital all those times and I loved it being
able to sleep in our bed instead of in that uncomfortable hospital
chair every night
--Regarding CHURCHES, RELIGION, etc:
alot to me, even though I wasnt very involved in my church is was
the most important part in life for my grandmother and I would want
her to be proud of me
--Religious Affiliation:
believe bu dont be forced by others to do something your not
interested in doing
--Regarding MONEY:
money isnt an issue after death, no matter how rich you are, you
cant bring back something god has decited to take away
--Regarding the FUNERAL:
we had a bag pipe player come and play some irish music which was
g-ma would have thought was funny and really nice
--SOME OF THE COMMON STAGES OF GRIEF:
you jsut have to learn to deal
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How'd I do? Very Difficult
What Helped me most deal with death? Illicit Drugs
What Hindered me most in my dealing with death? Illicit Drugs
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Sun Sep 10 20:46:57 2006
M53 in Port Dover , Ontario =Canada=
Name: Jim
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Prof/Studies: electrician
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of Wife, 4 Months ago.
Cause of Death: traffic accident; Aged: 49.
--Details:
The day started off so well, we made love in the early morning,
and then I left for work. She took the dog for a walk and was struck
by a truck. the driver was blinded by the morning sun temporarily.
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--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
the sense of helplessness and numbness, it almost seemed to be
surreal
--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
the support of the clergy in my town, several ministers & priests
of different denominations called
--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
the support of friends
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
the loss of my lover and house keeper
--Regarding CHURCHES, RELIGION, etc:
attending church regularly, & contributing to it
--Religious Affiliation:
Anglican (Episcopal)
--Regarding the FUNERAL:
how much the community cares
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How'd I do? Well
What Helped me most deal with death? Knew it was coming
What Hindered me most in my dealing with death? Family's Sensitivities
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